What I have learned so far:

1) he is still not a perfect man and neither are you. When you enter into this covenant with him, you have said "I do" to his love, his goodness and even all the brokenness he has handed to you at the altar. And he has said "I do" to all of yours as well. Marriage does not mean the end of things; rather, it is the beginning of a journey of understanding what true love and grace is.

2) there are certain things that are still ok to keep just between you and Him. Pick your battles wisely. Is this something that is really necessary to discuss or even fight about? Or is it because of your own selfishness and pride that you wanted to fight? Certain things should be processed through, prayed about, before bringing it to the table.

3) have faith in him and yourself. This may be the universal insecurity many of us women have, but have faith that he is remaining committed to you. That he does fight for you. That God is constantly protecting him and you, and guarding his and your heart.

4) compliment him whenever you can. Tell him he is a good husband. Tell him he is a hardworking man and you are very grateful for that. Tell him he looks good today. Tell him thank you for every little thing, even if it just handing you a cup of water out of nowhere because he cares. And then tell him thank you that he does the same things to you.

5) that when one falls, the other should be loving, not condemning. This is hard. This is when you realize you did not marry Prince Charming. That he did not marry a Princess either. That he will start doing things that you do not agree with, and you as well. So then a combination of picking your battles wisely, how to communicate wisely, and how to forgive and love wisely all comes together. It will not be easy. There will be tougher battles coming our way.

But at the end of the day,



Fight. And keep choosing him.





For me,


I am just grateful that I am doing life with this man. Right here, right now.