I'm not always great at the golden rules of rage 
(Don't damage yourself, don't damage other people, don't damage things)
but it's a work in progress. 

"Allowed damage" is one of the tools we go for. A step down if you like. 

Trying to navigate an incredibly frustrating situation this week  where I'm effective double penalised for someone else's mistake while they have no consequences at all.
Behind the integrity and patience I'm working hard to show is a whole lot of hacked up cardboard.