Just to digress, while we're recovering from our travels.
All the well wishers are requested to stay silent. If I need a parental advice, I'll ask for it. Just because I give my daughter options, it doesn't mean I'm spoiling her, it means I'm teaching her how to make choices. She gets 100% of my attention because she's the only child, she has an occasional tantrum and I sometimes let her have her own way, but to me she isn't spoilt. In fact she's been so good in the car and while we stayed in France she made me really proud. She makes me smile every day and is the most wonderful thing that happened to me, so get lost if you think otherwise.
There.