Apple cake and coffee

My Rotary club had invited members from a center for elderly people in Oslo to the Frognerseteren restaurant in the hills above Oslo today. The restaurant is since 100 years famous for its apple cake. Three nice ladies drove in my car. Age 90 - 95. One had a daughter age 73. Daily living in their flats in Oslo. Alone. Meeting eachother at the center regulary. We had an interesting talk about the old days and how it was back during ww2. I drove them back to their homes and I was touched by their thankfulness for the evening. 13 widows and 2 widowers. Gave me some thoughts. Why do we men have to leave first?