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I am making chicken curry after long. Just cut the tomatoes and frying the onions. In the background are the things involved in making this dish, a grinder, containers...

I have the television on and am watching a discussion on how 'ego' plays a major role in having good and bad relationships with your partner. It was interesting to hear each one describe their own experiences and how things went wrong, what they think was the problem. Most often the gist was that the person had an objection to the 'other's' ego and that made them fight enough to break up. The last guest was a psychologist who very succinctly defined ego. She said 'Ego is the gap between the person one really is, and what the person thinks they are'. I thought this was a good definition which also led to the solution to an ego problem, which she stated soon after. So logically if ego is a gap between your understanding of yourself and your abilities, you should be able to 'observe' yourself, introspect and correct any gap that may exist. Simple as this may sound, it does take time and conscious effort to resolve this. If successfully executed, it could lead to pleasant relationships. Another psychologist stated an important point as well. He said that it is important to understand that it is okay to be in a relationship and have different opinions. One should learn to 'accept' that and realize that is not an issue at all. In fact, he rightly mentioned that it would be incredibly boring to have two people to be clones of each other an always agree on everything.

I would like to take this to a broader view and make this apply to all relationships we have; friends, parents, children, relatives, etc. It does apply every where, but the level of intensity varies of course when it comes to couples.