Slowly getting better / domestic abuse

Mr Wrong- an abusive man

Shouts,sulks,smashes things, glares, calls you names,makes you feel ugly and useless, cuts you off from your friends, stops you working,never admits he is wrong, blames you, drugs, drink, stress etc. Turns the children against you, uses the children to control you, never does his share of the housework, never looks after the children., expects sex on demand. Controls the money, threatens or wheedles you to get his own way, seduces your friends/sister/anyone, expects you to be responsible for his wellbeing.

Mr right - a non abusive man

Is cheerful, consistent, supportive, tells you you look good, tells you your competent, uses your name, trusts you, trusts your judgement, welcomes your friends and family, encourages you to be independent, supports your learning, career etc. Admits to being wrong, is a responsible parent, is an equal parent, does his share of the housework, accepts that you have a right to say no to sex, shares financial responsibility, takes responsibility for his own well being and happiness in short behaves like a reasonable human being!!! Www.freedomprogramme.co.uk

The above was given to me on a business card sept 09 a business card I will always keep!

This is the one thing that showed me the light even above all my friends and family urging me to leave I hope this may help someone else! I have two wonderful children they may be full of cold but at least they are safe and happy!!!