in absentia

Two funerals that I am not going to today.

For one: a baby son unborn; people tell me that the funeral will be an important milestone in the grieving process; it will be.

For the other: a host of unanswered questions and half-or-even-less-than-truths; an almost literary curiousity for an opened book - I'd say, unless you really are writing a novel, think carefully about whether you will want to hear whatever you may find.