You can chose your friends, but you can't choose y

It was getting too good to be true, things were going so well with the GF that I knew we had to hit a roadblock soon, we had our first one about three weeks ago, which I mentioned on here but didn't want to go into full detail. That was sorted, & shall remain über private. However we hit a second one yesterday. It seemed for a while that this would be the biggest of the two roadblocks, & I thought this one could stop us growing as a couple. I was wrong. We are still going strong & loving it.

This roadblock, is quite controversial. But not enough for me to not blip about it.

I don't think I've mentioned this on my blip (because to me it's not important), but me & the GF are of different races. I am British Caucasian & she is British Black. To me this doesn't matter, we are both hunan beings & that's all that matters. She agrees, which is why we are together.

Now I've lived in a place all my life where there are not many black people around. It was only when I went to full time work that I was treated to being involved in a mixed community. It took a while to adapt as it was a bit of a culture shock, but I never felt anything bad towards a certain race or even a certain type of sexuality. I love that I work in a place with a mixed community of staff, it's good to learn new things & ways other people behave.

Anyway, I'm digressing from the point.

A Certain member of my family doesn't feel the same. Well on the surface you wouldn't be able to guess they felt this way. A sibling of mine, who has 'friends' from all different cultures, who counts Alesha Dixon as one of his top 5 crushes, & worked underneath a black boss for 3 years, is a member of the BNP.

Yep, you read that right. I don't like telling people because im embarrassed by it. He will often crack racist terms just for the sake of it, yet be friends with people of the same race he insults.

(Now I'm not perfect, I will laugh at 'Racist' jokes if they are funny, not ones that just insult races for the sake of it. I consider myself to be as pc as I need to be, especially in the mixed community of my work)

This has played in the back in my head ever since iv been with the GF. My sibling has been nice to her, not shown her any disrespect in the times they have met her. As they do with most other people of colour.

Now the GF found out about this as we were discussing politics (I say we, she was talking & I said I only voted for someone in the latest election because they had a cool name). She asked about how family voted, & I don't ever want to lie to her, & I also don't want her to think in hiding things from her. So I told her that she might be shocked, & was she! She has been raised to fear the BNP. We had a massive discussion in which she told me that if we ever had children she couldn't even trust them to babysit. It took a while but she got past it, it will never be fully gone from her head I feel.

I had to remind her that even though he is my family, I don't have to agree with them, also she has met the friends of my life & they are not anything like my sibling. The title of this blip is going to be the moral of the story.

The picture is of the toy hoodie bear the GF bought me after I returned from Ireland.