Learning to live without them......

Its 4 years since dad and 3 years since mum died - both on the same day but one year apart.

"in life they were loved and gracious, in death they will never be apart"

We went to place some flowers at grave today, when we got there, the only splash of colour were these little violas fighting their way through the snow as it glistened at the granite headstone

I was in the fortunate position to have fantastic parents . I know alot of us think we have great parents , but I really did. They gave so much for which we did not realise until it was too late.
It wasn't in material wealth but in everything else, especially love & support.
Despite their chronic illl health they lived life to the full and taught me some key life skills to which I base my own beliefs

- It's not what you say or do, it's how you make someone feel, that is how others will always remember you

- If what you are about to say is going to be hurtful or an untruth about someone - don't say it

- It's not material wealth that counts, it's what you do for others that does count

- Where negative things happen, there is always a positive (somewhere)

- Nobody should die rich, it should be shared with those less fortunate

- Anger, jealousy and bitterness are time wasting emotions - deal with the cause and move on

- Problems in life are like nettles - if you brush them aside they will sting / hurt, therefore grab them firmly and they are then in your control

- There are three ways to deal with a problem
1 Deal with it yourself
2 Get someone to help you deal with it
3 If it is still not resolvable, accept the outcome and change how you feel about it

What better teachers could I have had?

Love them and miss them xxx

I fear that I will be adding my brother's name to this headstone soon......