Silence is a Virtue

St. Mark's Cemetery (Ontario's Oldest Cemetery, and My Personal Favorite), Niagara On The Lake, Ontario

And silence. She liked the silence most of all. The silence in which the body, senses, the instincts, are more alert, more powerful, more sensitized, live a more richly perfumed and intoxication life, instead of transmuting into thoughts, words, into exquisite abstractions, mathematics of emotion in place of violent impact, the volcanic eruptions of fever, lust and delight. - Anais Nin

After work I needed some me time, so I got a coffee and went and spent some time with the dead. I must say that I really enjoy my own company; I have been self-sufficient since I was a little girl, never bored of my own company and always finding things to do.

I am a firm believer of Me time; and yes when I was in a relationship I did too (I also encouraged my partner to also take Me time). No, it isn't pathetic, not at all! There is no one on this earth who will treat you better than you can treat yourself. When you hear people say can't love someone until you love yourself, well, it's true! People have this sense where we can tell the people who really care about themselves and those who don't without them saying anything. If you don't even enjoy your own company, what makes you think someone else would? People become so attached to their friends and partners they start to lose a sense of self. Nothing wrong with being around others but when you make time for yourself, you start to learn more about yourself.

I find the problem is that a lot of people are scared to be alone. Just because you are alone doesn't mean you have to be lonely. There are plenty of things I enjoy and I find interesting that my friends wouldn't but I don't get pissed off of them not joining me. I just go alone and I enjoy myself. I love going out on the town or visiting another country alone. I think society also plays a major part in making people afraid to be alone. You see on TV and in magazines and blogs how to find the perfect mate, how to find the perfect friends. It's like everywhere you go someone is with someone and if you aren't you're a weirdo! In my opinion it displays confidence. You don't need someone else to make you whole.