Command and Control..

Although being controlled can be very frustrating it's helpful to remember that no one can control everything all of the time. There are lots of different types of control and it can feel a little debilitating when you're in a situation like that.

My least favourite type is the deceptive controller, people who crave control so badly that, for them, the end justifies the means. They’ll bad-mouth others, start and spread rumors, mislead, set one person against another, omit crucial facts, and sometimes lie outright.

Precisely because they are so good at what they do, it usually takes a while to realise how events are being orchestrated behind-the-scenes. Moreover, they’re slippery when confronted, and they are very good at protesting-with some degree of believability-Who me? I checked it out with you!

It's not easy to expose a deceptive controller’s shady tactics without looking petulant or defensive, but the secret to survival is not to share secrets with them-they won’t be secrets for long-and never discuss your self-doubts or fears with them. I'm sure you can tell that we learned this one the hard way.

"Be nice to people on your way up because you'll meet the same people on your way down".
Wilson Mizner