.......tough two days...........

These have been my constant companions for the last two days........photo ID, Driving Licence and two Power of Attorney documents.

Dad is in a hospital unit having had two falls (Thursday and Friday). Drove up Monday morning..........case conference planned for 4.30...........phone calls to Solicitors, banks and doctors to arrange appointments.........

Went to the conference......shocked at how much he has deteriorated.........clearly depressed........not been eating or drinking properly...........has been trying to eat food straight from the freezer.........or ready meals without heating them...........cold soup straight from the can............even trying to microwave a trifle............carers haven't picked up on this.

We have just arranged visits from carers 4 times per day............a safe so he can't take his meds without a carer supervising.........a key safe so the carers can get in without him having to answer the door..........carers to cook a meal in the morning and evening..............but the recent falls have overtaken us.

The case conference was to discuss his future needs..............he was confused.......tearful....and the outcome was that he is moving to an assessment room...for at least two weeks........to determine if he can return home.........there seems to be no medical reasons for his deterioration.....but blood test etc are still being carried out.......but our opinion is he's not safe at home on his own.

Today has been a run around...to register the PoA with two banks.....a firm of solicitors........the GP.........and to arrange to have hos post redirected to my sis.

Long, lonely drive back home..pissing down with rain..........idiots on the road............and too much time to fret about Dad........I'm absolutely exhausted........and struggling with what to do next...........another conference on Nov 10th.

Das vidanya moy psadruga.

My sis has just phoned.....been to visit Dad........he's totally different........bright....chatty.......but that's probably because he's being fed....and drinking.......and he has stimulation.........he sees people and they speak to him........instead of him just sitting at home............if he was to go home would the four visits a day keep him on an even keel or would he go downhill again?